There is a secret to a happy couple life. However, there are certain strategies and habits you can adopt to ensure your relationship with your romantic partner thrives in a healthy way that will foster growth and strong connections for decades to come. Here are the key things happy couples have in common—and we can all learn a thing or two!
Lasting respect is the strongest part of a strong relationship. It makes you feel valued and creates a solid foundation for trust, gratitude, and loyalty. Not sure how to respect your partner? First, consider thanking them more often, even for small things. Always make sure you are aware of your partner’s day and listen carefully. The way you argue also shows respect. Instead of yelling, listen to the other person’s feelings and try to understand them from their perspective.
- Spend time together
Quality time is important to every couple. No matter how different your pastimes and careers are, it’s important to enjoy each other’s company through activities you both enjoy. That doesn’t have to mean high-stakes adventures and fancy dinners. You can cook together, have a cup of coffee, or even take a class together.
- No screen time
Movies and relaxation are some of the easiest activities to do, especially when you’re both burned out from work. But when you’re watching TV, your attention is drawn outside rather than toward each other. Try to spend at least some time away from the phone and TV so you can really focus on each other—even if it’s just walking down the street together. This will help you get out of the rut of scrolling through the TV or phone.
- It’s the little things
You don’t always have to make big gestures to show someone you love them. In fact, the little things are far more important than hiring a flash mob or spending big bucks on expensive jewelry. Consider doing a chore you know your partner doesn’t like, buying them their favorite cup of coffee, or leaving little love letters at home.
- Physical intimacy
It’s normal for some couples to have trouble with sex, especially if they’ve been together for a while. But there are other forms of physical intimacy that release the love hormone oxytocin. This can include holding hands, kissing, hugging and sharing a massage. This intimacy will help strengthen your bond while reducing stress.
- Take the initiative to argue
Yes, there are fights and such. Fighting is inevitable for every couple, but in the end it should help you move forward and learn new things from each other so that your relationship is stronger than ever. Instead of being silent, yelling, or holding a grudge, focus on problem solving, compromise, and a sincere apology. Always try to listen patiently instead of attacking and interrupting defensively
- Teamwork makes dreams come true
It’s important to be consistent with your partner. We call that “effective intimacy” in therapy. While this can be expressed in different ways, it often means showing solidarity and acting like teammates on issues such as parenting, chores, or vacation planning.
Excessive dependence on the other party will make you feel dependent and bored with the other party. maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself is very important in life.
That’s why self-care and time spent with yourself is just as important as quality time in your relationship. Keeping your identities separate will make your bond even more special and serve as a constant reminder of why you fell in love.
- Not comparing your relationship with others
Pro tip: To avoid this, stop following so many influential couples on social media! Comparing to other couples and focusing on other people’s expectations and assumptions will always lead to your failure. In contrast, happy couples recognize that their dynamics are completely unique and that they judge their lives only by their own standards.
Trust is a vital aspect of any partnership, closely intertwined with commitment. Depending on the couple, this may involve practicing monogamy or embracing open relationships and transparent communication. Regardless of the relationship style, honesty serves as the foundation for establishing trust. By building trust, couples can mitigate feelings of anxiety and fear, allowing them to better comprehend and respond to their partner’s needs.